As We
Are One (Easter 7C)
Homily delivered at Trinity Parish,
Ashland (OR)
Sunday May 8, 2016 8:00 a.m. said,
10:00 a.m. Sung Holy Eucharist
The Rev. Fr. Tony Hutchinson, SCP,
Ph.D.
God, take away our hearts of stone
and give us hearts of flesh. Amen.
and give us hearts of flesh. Amen.
When I first moved to China, I took a year of language
courses and cultural studies. We learned
that Chinese culture values the group rather than the individual, as we do here
in the West. That Chinese culture is all
about harmony and order, not pursuit of personal interest. But when I arrived in China, the first time I
saw the traffic patterns, I was appalled:
chaos, every man for himself, and an apparent total disregard for even
their own rules of the road. And line
behavior! Or rather crowd scrumming behavior
before a ticket booth: there were no
lines to speak of. I wondered, “Where
is the harmony? Where is the valuing of
group over self? I realized quickly that,
for good or for ill, there were certain patterns of behavior behind such unfair
and prejudicial stereotypes in the West as “a Chinese fire drill.”
The next time I was in a class where “Chinese culture” was
discussed, I mentioned the contrast to my teacher, who also was stressing the
relatively heavier weight Chinese philosophers and moral teachers put on
community, group, and harmony than their Western counterparts. The teacher was wise. He resolved my conflict for me. “You
must remember,” he said, “that a culture often desires most what its people
lack the most. We Chinese value and talk
about harmony and community so much because at heart we are such radical
individualists, selfish for ourselves or our little group (family, village,
schoolmates). You Americans talk about
community values too—in some ways, Americans and Chinese are very much alike,
despite the differences in history, language, and political systems. That’s why, I think it is so easy for
Americans and Chinese to become friends.”
Think about it: we
Americans talk and talk about family values, but have such a high divorce rate
and rates of infidelity. We talk and
talk about individual freedoms and liberty in a setting where we regularly use
foreign policy and military power to force our ways on others, and where
domestically we tend to be creatures of predictable herd behavior. Those who
support gun rights the most tend to people who feel the most fear and
insecurity in their own lives. Those who
are most worked up about imposing their codes of sexual morality on others sometimes
seem to be the ones most conflicted about their own sexual drives.
Now we Christians talk a lot about unity. About being one. About charity and love in community. But from the beginning, we have been a fractious
lot, excommunicating and anathematizing others because they disagree with us on
all sorts of things, but mainly esoteric points of abstract doctrine. We read plenty of passages in the New
Testament, like today’s Gospel, about being one, about being unified and
loving. But even in the New Testament
are dozens of examples of serious division, infighting, schism, and mutual
exclusion within the larger Christian community.
We tend to value and talk about the things we feel the most
need for. But talking about unity and
love doesn’t create it. Often, appealing
to the need for Christian love ends up being a none-too-veiled effort to force
someone into submission. You know the
line “we need to love each other, to be one: so give up on your wayward ways or
wrong opinions, your heresy, and join us in one big happy loving Christian family.” Such appeals to unity, while common, are to
my mind, nothing more than weaponizing Jesus, turning the Gospel of Peace into
a club with which to beat others into submission to us.
So how do we avoid the trap of talking peace while actually
are waging war?
I think part of it here is found in being honest about what
behaviors and attitudes build unity and mutual love and which mimic unity and
love while actually undermining their achievement.
First, is a commitment to each other. In the words of the great adventure novel, The Three Musketeers, we must be all for
one and one for all. We together must
take to heart the needs and aspirations of each of us. But each of us must be willing to sacrifice
our own comfort and priorities for the common good.
Second, we need to invest in the relationship. That means taking time to join in common
work, service, and ministry. It means
putting such time commitments on a relatively high priority. It means sacrificing our wealth and resources
for the joint ministries and the ministries of those with whom we are in
relationship. Remember that Jesus said,
where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.
Third, we need to remember the importance of honesty,
tempered with compassion, in all relationships.
We need to learn to “fight fair.”
If someone offends us, whether personally or on a matter of principle,
we need to show that person the dignity and respect of telling them. Not in accusatory, passion-enflaming words,
but with “I” statements: “I feel (give emotion) when you (state the behavior,
not some kind of attribute or way of being) because (explain why the behavior
provokes the feeling you have, again, in non accusatory language).” We need to be honest and talk to each other,
and take responsibility for our own feelings and opinions. No manipulation through third parties or
anonymous “some people are saying.” The
key here is not letting things get bottled up, piling deeper and deeper until
they explode in a horrible scene of mutual accusation and rejection.
Fourth, remember that we are all in this together. It never should be about me versus you or us
versus them. This is the idea that lies
behind the practice of compassion that prevents honesty from becoming brutal
manipulation.
Fifth, listen to the other person’s viewpoint and
experience. Don’t reject them out of
hand. Embrace diversity, even diversity
on important things, as valuable. Don’t
let your own experience and struggles with something blind you to the person in
front of you. When Jesus says that way
to salvation is narrow and the gate to it hard to pass through, he is not
restricting salvation to the very few elite.
He is saying we cannot move forward and make progress in the Spirit
without getting rid of the baggage that burdens us down and makes it hard to
get through the door.
I think that in community life, in any relationship, it is
important to keep saying “I’m not giving up on you yet!” And “I hope you’re not giving up on me
yet!” An open heart and mind is the way
forward, not a heart and mind that says “I know what’s what, and that settles
it!”
Again, the habits of being united in charity and love are 1)
commit to each other, 2) invest time and money to build the relationship 3) be
honest in differences and learn to “fight fair,” 4) talk and think in terms of us not you and
me, and 5) embrace diversity and listen to each other.
One for all, and all for one. I would ask the acolytes to pass these out, one for each person. They are called Three Musketeer bars, I am told, because originally they were packaged large, with two scores across each of them. You were supposed to share them with two friends, like the Three Musketeers. These mini bars here today are to help us remember that to be one as the Father and the Son are
one, we need to remember the rules of the road for basic relationship and
community.
In the name of God, Amen
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